Field note What are we missing when we explain behavior?

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What are we missing when we explain behavior?

Why what happened and why it happened should not become the same question too quickly.

Field note · · 2 min read

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An interpretation wearing an observation’s clothes

“She is disengaged.” “He is resistant.” “They don’t care.”

These sound like descriptions. They are not. They are explanations.

“She stopped raising her hand two weeks ago” is something we can observe. “She is disengaged” is a theory about what the observation means.

That distinction can feel unnecessarily precise until we notice what happens next.

Once the interpretation becomes the fact, it begins organizing everything around it. We look for evidence of disengagement. We change our expectations. We speak to the person differently. We may stop asking questions that would have made another explanation visible.

Behavior is real, its meaning is not always obvious

The same behavior can emerge from very different conditions.

Silence can mean indifference, uncertainty, disagreement, exhaustion, fear, concentration, restraint, or simply having nothing to add.

Withdrawal from someone can reflect anger. It can also reflect overwhelm.

A missed obligation can come from poor planning. It can also come from circumstances we cannot see.

Behavior gives us evidence before it gives us an explanation.

That ambiguity does not mean we can never know what behavior means. It means the evidence arrives before the explanation does, and the two are easy to collapse into one.

Curiosity is not the same as the benefit of every doubt

This is where contextual thinking can be misunderstood.

The goal is not to construct increasingly sympathetic explanations until no one can ever be held responsible for anything.

Sometimes someone did not prepare. Sometimes a boundary was knowingly crossed. Sometimes the first interpretation was correct.

Curiosity simply delays certainty long enough to find out.

That can matter enormously in a marriage, a classroom, a workplace, a friendship, or in the way we interpret ourselves. There is a different posture between You are inconsiderate and That hurt me, and I want to understand what happened.

Understanding may eventually lead us back to exactly the same boundary or decision. But we reach it knowing more.

See before Examine

This is why the first step in Human Context’s SEED method is See. Before we explain, we try to describe.

  • What actually happened?
  • When did it begin?
  • How often has it occurred?
  • What changed around it?
  • What evidence supports the story we are already telling?

Then we Examine. We widen the frame, consider alternatives, and look for the conditions that might help distinguish one explanation from another. After that comes Experiment and Develop.

The sequence matters because our first explanation influences what we look for next.

Leave enough room to be surprised

There is a form of humility in separating observation from explanation. Other people contain information we do not have access to. So do our own bodies, histories, relationships, and environments.

We will still make judgments. We have to.

Human Context is not an argument against judgment. It is an argument for earning a little more of it.

Sometimes additional context changes the story. Sometimes it complicates it. And sometimes it confirms what we believed at the beginning.

The value lies in knowing which one actually happened.

These questions are examined more deeply in Human Performance in Context, in development.

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